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Marriage is not for small boys

Marriage is often taken for granted. We think we know all and get into it without learning how to make it work. Understanding marriage should be the first most important task if you want to live a happy married life. There’s more to marriage than love, sex, and trust. Let’s clear some misunderstandings and highlight the pitfalls so that you’re better prepared to face challenges and have better expectations of marriage.

 

Most married couples live together, and that certainly is good for marriage. But being together isn’t enough. The partners in a marriage need to be sharing and caring. They should support and trust each other during thick and thin times.

The strong commitment makes your marriage work even if you’re separated due to work or other circumstances. The element that glues two individuals in a marriage is not sex but commitment.

The understanding in marriage leads to more intimacy in relationships than that comes out of sex in marriage. Remember, a good marriage leads to good sex, and not the other way around. It includes commitment, compassion, care, respect, and being there for each other. Having these elements make sex in a marriage all the more wonderful.

One aspect that makes a marriage special is exclusivity remaining commitment to one person, your partner. Being together by marriage but indulging in affairs elsewhere is the worst thing you can do.

“The best thing to hold onto in life is… each other.”  Pslooks

 

MARRIAGE NOT FOR SMALL BOYS

I used to interpret the saying “Marriage is not for small boys” to mean small boys in terms of age, until I visited a female mentor that has been in marriage for 47 years.

I asked, so what is the secret of your over 47 years in marriage?
Beaming, she retorted; my son, the expectations you bring into marriage will either spell its doom or success. I married my husband without expectations of enjoying his money or buying cars for me, but with time, my patience, hard work and God-fearing attitude yielded results of getting cars, houses, taking care of our children and all that.

You see, if a married lady keeps on nagging in the house, she pushes the spirit of her husband from the home. If you make the man unhappy, you make the house uncomfortable.

So, I married without high expectations from my husband but simply to make him happy always.

Read more on the following headings:

  • YOU DO SOMETHING FOR YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE AND EXPECT SAME REWARD FROM HIM OR HER, THIS IS WRONG!WHAT TO DO AND SAY AFTER YOU HURT YOUR SPOUSE
  • WHAT YOU SHOULD NOT SAY
  • HOW YOU SHOULD RESPOND
  • EVERY HUSBAND SHOULD SAY TO HIS WIFE
  • TIPS TO UNDERSTANDING MARRIAGE

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